June 22, 2022 Roundup
Recent family related news included a look at the history of marriage and divorce in the United States and an ode to non-romantic love. Also in the news was a detailed profile of a dating coach and an expose regarding the prevalence of implicit bias against women in courtrooms.
Escape From the Gilded Cage Smithsonian Magazine, June 2022 “…The story of marriage in the United States is often told in lofty and heroic terms… Divorce is rarely celebrated in the same way, but the two are inextricable. The women who migrated to Sioux Falls more than a century ago saw this clearly: To be free to divorce as well as to marry is to be free to choose whom to love and how to live…New York was the last to institute a no-fault [divorce] statute, which it did in 2010…”
Singleness Is Not a Stigma Ife Olatona, The New York Times, June 10, 2022 “…I don’t think singleness should carry a stigma. If anything, romantic love should be more stigmatized…Though beautiful and impassioned when alive, love stings when it withers, and so romantic relationships and marriages are to me, at best, a congratulatory knot, but not an achievement or a guarantee of fulfillment….”
June 12 is Loving Day — when interracial marriage finally became legal in the U.S. NPR, June 12, 2022 “Chief Justice Earl Warren wrote the opinion for the court [in Loving v. Virginia]; he wrote that marriage is a basic civil right and to deny this right on a basis of color is “directly subversive of the principle of equality at the heart of the Fourteenth Amendment” and seizes all citizens “liberty without due process of law.”
Logan Ury Says You’re Dating All Wrong Dani Blum, The New York Times, Updated June 14, 2022 The author, Dani Blum, does a deep dive into the world of Logan Ury, a dating coach. From her Oakland commune, Ms. Ury has made a big business out of her data-driven approach to modern romance.
Why Are Women Not “Heard” In A Court Of Law? Patricia Fersch, Forbes, June 15, 2022 The author writes: “A United Nations gender study found that 90% of people are biased against women. When this “implicit bias” plays out in a court of law, the result is an injustice to women…The Judges need to be trained in implicit bias against women and … more sensitivity afforded to women. Social science must play a role in judge’s training…”