June 10, 2020
Recent family-related news included tips for parents on how to survive your marriage and how to end your marriage in the age of Covid-19 with a great emphasis on the importance of educating divorcing parents about keeping the children out of their conflict.
Parent Education in Contested Custody Cases (Essential in the Season of Coronavirus) Sondra M. Miller, The New York Law Journal, June 03, 2020 Judge Miller eloquently pleads the case for parent education for divorcing parents: “The current pandemic has increased the tensions that normally affect families, and particularly those engaged in divorce proceedings… Judge Sunshine, Statewide Coordinating Judge for Matrimonial Cases, notes that the courts will consider the behavior of the parent during the litigation as relevant to their future conduct that will affect their children. He notes that a party’s failure to obey court orders may be relevant to the court’s conclusion as to the likely behavior of the party after conclusion of the court’s proceedings… All of the above reinforces the importance of parent education programs during this unprecedented time….I know that no vaccine will protect vulnerable children trapped in their parents’ marital conflicts… However, parent education can help families during this crisis and beyond.”
When Couples Fight About Virus Risks Jessica Grose, The New York Times, Updated May 27, 2020 Now that many states are moving beyond strict shelter-in-place edicts, couples are trying to figure out how to venture out of their homes and begin seeing friends and extended family in a world where previously mundane activities now feel fraught with potential danger.
Opinion: 7 tips to smoothly end your marriage in the age of coronavirus, where divorce is harder than ever Janet Tighe and Susan Miller, Market Watch, May 29, 2020 There may be changes to how a divorce can be accomplished, but it can be done as we find ways to adapt to a new form of “normal.” Courts are adapting and changing how filings and court-ordered mediations are being handled. Meetings may need to be done virtually through video conferencing for the foreseeable future.
What Happens When ‘Civil’-Ity Breaks Down Because Civil Courts Are Closed? Patricia Fersch, Forbes.com, June 2, 2020 “Fighting with the other parent will not get you more time with your child. I advise any parent to keep their eye on the thing that is most important—spending time with their child…Without our civil courts the social contract is reliant on all of us behaving properly and fairly with each other. When the courts reopen, it will be up to the courts to decide how well we have done without them.”
Gay Couples Can Teach Straight People a Thing or Two About Arguing Christina Caron, The New York Times, Updated June 5, 2020 Same-sex couples, on average, resolve conflict more constructively than different-sex couples, and with less animosity, studies have shown…A 2018 study suggested that when members of a same-sex couple try to influence one another, they are more likely to offer encouragement and praise rather than criticism or lectures when compared to different-sex couples.