January 12, 2022 Roundup
Recent family-related news included a deep dive into the institution of marriage and tips for a healthy relationship. A look at the issue of pet custody in Europe, also tops the news.
Making These Resolutions Can Improve a Relationship Alix Strauss,The New York Times, December 28, 2021 Before couples can look toward a positive new year, they need to have closure with the one that is ending, said Julie Schwartz Gottman, a psychologist and a founder of the Gottman Institute. Relationship experts share four suggestions for enhancing intimacy and romance with your partner in the new year.
What Does Marriage Ask Us to Give Up? Kaitlyn Greenidge, The New York Times, January 4, 2022 “…There is a lot of hand-wringing currently about the decline of marriage in America…Our culture may have changed to allow other ways for people to chart their lives, but whole industries and institutions — banking, real estate, health care, insurance, advertising and most important, taxation — revolve around assumptions of marriage as the norm. Without that base assumption, the logic of many of those transactions is thrown out…”
Dog Custody: Spain to Consider Pets' Welfare in Divorce Battles Reuters, USNews, January 5, 2022 In a legal shift that strengthens the case for couples obtaining shared custody of their animals, Spain will consider the welfare of a pet when couples divorce or break-up…The decision follows similar moves in France and Portugal and obliges judges to consider pets as sentient beings rather than objects owned by one or the other partner, a trend that was already underway before the law was passed.
Watching a Partner Change Is Hard. Accepting It Can Be Harder Allison Hope, The New York Times, January 6, 2022 “…We don’t marry one person as much as we marry one version of a person, a snapshot of who we (and our partner) are individually and to one another at the moment when we say 'I do.' Who we are five, 10 or 40 years later is anybody’s guess. People change. As a result, relationships change, too…”
The Benefits of Bickering in Marriage Nicole Walker, The New York Times, January 7, 2022 The author shares: “…I have always believed that being in a long-term relationship, including friendship, is about creating a shared narrative. To get there, you’re going to have to iron out the details…I wonder about couples who don’t argue at all — who make no noise, who don’t contend with words. How do they combine their individual stories into a shared one?…”