Accepting the New Normal

Many families have the good fortune to gather for the Thanksgiving holiday. Mine is no exception. It is the one time a year that we gather at my sister’s place to eat, laugh, share stories, watch some football and generally goof around. These days my sister’s three sons, all grown now, travel from their far More →

Why I Work With Divorcing Families

I was divorced more than forty years ago. At that time, my two small children were 4 and 6. While I knew I wanted to end the marriage, I had no models of how to have “a successful divorce” where the kids could be taken care of by both parents. There weren’t many books on More →

That’s Parenting Too

Tis the season for graduations. It’s a bit early for high schools, but college grads abound. If you are the parent of a grad, this event is a proud moment for you as well. Aside from breathing a sigh of relief with the last tuition payment, you’ve earned the opportunity to watch your child accept More →

Be a Separation and Divorce Mediator

“Hi my name is...and I will be your mediator. I will not make any decision for you. I am not a judge. I will help you to reach your own agreement. I am impartial and neutral. A mediation session is confidential...” These are typical sample statements of how a mediation session begins, and it is More →

Mediation is Not Like Laundry

Ahh, laundry. Laundry has a set of rules and a distinct sense of structure to complete the task. There’s a beginning (clothes go into washing machine); there’s a middle (clothes go into dryer for a specified number of minutes); and an end (clothes are folded and put away). Mediation is not like laundry. Mediation is More →

Question: I am the parent of teenagers. Their father and I are beginning the divorce process. Everyone’s emotions are running high in the house. How do I know if my kids’ reactions are due to the divorce or to normal adolescence? What can I do to prevent the adverse effects of the divorce on my More →

With Valentine’s Day right around the corner, love is in the air. Lots of couples will get engaged, so sure that each has found his or her “one true love” and forever soul mate. But what happens after we snag the “Prince or Princess,” get the beautiful ring, plan the very expensive “fairytale” wedding and More →

It’s the time of year for summing up, for taking stock of our lives and making resolutions for the coming year. Why not put on next year’s to-do list a resolution that will not only strengthen your quads, or make more time to go to the beach, but make sure you increase your success — More →

The holidays provide a great opportunity to teach your children the gift of giving. Parents can easily become transformed into “personal shoppers” for their kids, especially after receiving emails, tweets or Instagram pics with specific links to the exact color, shape and size of items on their wish lists. The sharing, giving component of the More →

I’m just as upset as everyone else: the era of Brangelina has come to the end. I, too, lauded their commitment to global causes and co-parenting six kids. Despite tabloid fodder, I have no idea what caused the breakdown of their marriage, but it can’t be easy. It doesn’t matter; it’s over. Brad Pitt and More →